Comments on: Why I Write about Violence Against Women

By: Chantel Rhondeau

Chantel Rhondeau — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 23:16:33 +0000

I think some people who have never experienced domestic violence or its aftermath on a personal level have a hard time understanding it. But there does need to be a war wagged against it, as you say. I think it is wonderful that you are doing your part to raise awareness.

People trapped in these situations need help and support. They need ‘soldiers’ to help fight this battle and win their freedom from an untenable situation.

By: Danielle

Danielle — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 22:45:58 +0000

Yes, Carin, I agree that beliefs are central to all our experiences. Changing our thinking about what is okay in intimate relationships is central to changing our tolerance of violence, as a society.

By: Carin

Carin — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 13:09:30 +0000

“…Whilst it would be reassuring to think of this protagonist’s sexism and need for power and control as unique, they are not. They conspire with many patriarchal norms to facilitate the violence that women and children experience every day…”

This is so true and, in my opinion, the root of much abuse. One of my favorite quotes is, “A belief is a lever that, once pulled, moves almost everything else in a person’s life.” My belief system (much of it shaped by fundamentalism – men are the head of the house with women in submission, etc.) did facilitate the abuse. And, then my Christian counselors just perpetuated the cycle…it was maddening.

It is imperative that these beliefs and norms be reshaped. Would love to read your book…glad you didn’t glorify.

Great article…thanks for sharing.