Comments on: Leave E.L. James Alone Already http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/ Sat, 26 Mar 2016 08:20:34 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.3 By: Sandra Schwab http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/#comment-47367 Sat, 26 Mar 2016 08:20:34 +0000 http://booksbywomen.org/?p=13669#comment-47367 I’m afraid I find the whole attitude of “If you’ve got nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all” extremely problematic because way too often it is used to stifle discussions on topics like racism in publishing. In addition, it is far to often used to erase the voices of marginalized groups (just look at what happened in m/m recently – though in that case it was “Don’t shit on my happy,” a argument closely related to “If you’ve got nothing nice to say.”).

To use the #AskELJames as an example of where “If you’ve got nothing nice to say…” should have applied, is perhaps particularly unfortunate because what happened on that hashtag was that many people called James out for romanticizing emotional abuse and for depicting BDSM in a way that was not just plain wrong, but also extremely dangerous. James had been dismissive (and that’s putting it politely) about those concerns in the past, so I think it’s no wonder that this hashtag was taken over. Yes, there were also people who were simply making fun of James’ writing, but don’t throw them all into one pot.

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By: Beatrice James http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/#comment-47047 Wed, 06 Jan 2016 09:46:10 +0000 http://booksbywomen.org/?p=13669#comment-47047 I think that the issue can sometimes relate to mass marketing and publicity that promotes the book and raises expectations. I also don’t like leaving one or two star reviews, but find it harder to be sympathetic when the book is hyped beyond belief. I think a lot of readers were disappointed by ELJ on that basis. There is also a degree of resentment, when we all work so hard on our work. However that’s life. There is always an element of luck when you hope to be published as in any other walk of life. I have read some brilliant self published books and wondered why they hadn’t been picked up.

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By: Terry Tyler http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/#comment-47046 Wed, 06 Jan 2016 08:07:26 +0000 http://booksbywomen.org/?p=13669#comment-47046 In reply to ebony edwards-ellis.

I agree. I review for a review blog, where we decline to review if we can’t post a 3*, but even with a 3* we are still careful to balance the less positive comments with the good. I think my own writing has improved partly because of negative comments – no book is 100% brilliant, and it’s unrealistic to suggest that it is. Laying out anything you’ve created in front of the public is a risky business; are we such babies we can’t deal with a little constructive criticism? I don’t think so 🙂

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By: Terry Tyler http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/#comment-47045 Wed, 06 Jan 2016 08:03:41 +0000 http://booksbywomen.org/?p=13669#comment-47045 In reply to Amy.

Amy, there are groups on Facebook that provide this service. The authors buy each others’ books and post 5* reviews without them having been read. I’ve been invited to join one. I have also had other authors tell me that they’ve had 5* review swaps suggested to them, and have had two authors suggest them to me. I told them both what I thought, in no uncertain terms.

I’m just pleased for you that you haven’t come across this apalling behaviour!

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By: Amy http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/#comment-47039 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 13:48:00 +0000 http://booksbywomen.org/?p=13669#comment-47039 In reply to A E Dooland.

Yes!
My own perspective on this issue has changed over time as well!

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By: A E Dooland http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/#comment-47037 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 09:21:27 +0000 http://booksbywomen.org/?p=13669#comment-47037 In my youth and before I published, I left some very scathing reviews of books that had disappointed me. A few years later, I went back and deleted them. I was absolutely appalled with myself that I could be that cruel to anyone about something they had lovingly created.

These days, with my own books on the market, I feel that even more strongly. Readers are able to draw their own conclusions about long-published books without many reviews. There’s no need for me to put anything there at all if I don’t like something. I just close that book and pick up the next one.

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By: Iqra Asad http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/#comment-46587 Thu, 30 Jul 2015 20:16:38 +0000 http://booksbywomen.org/?p=13669#comment-46587 I agree wholeheartedly with “say something nice or don’t say anything at all”. I don’t leave bad reviews.

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By: Amy http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/#comment-46529 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 10:12:05 +0000 http://booksbywomen.org/?p=13669#comment-46529 In reply to Paula Kelly-Ince.

Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment!

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By: Amy http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/#comment-46528 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 10:11:41 +0000 http://booksbywomen.org/?p=13669#comment-46528 In reply to Terry Tyler.

Thank you for reading and commenting. I have never heard any author say publicly (or privately) that they will post positive reviews of a book regardless of the standard, so I have to respectfully disagree that this is a widespread problem – at least in the women’s fiction genre.

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By: Amy http://booksbywomen.org/leave-e-l-james-alone-already/#comment-46527 Mon, 13 Jul 2015 10:09:40 +0000 http://booksbywomen.org/?p=13669#comment-46527 In reply to ebony edwards-ellis.

Thank you for your thoughts – there has been great dialogue on this issue – and for that I am so grateful!

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